Archive for December, 2006

a little off topic

My local independent book seller turned me on to Mia’s Secret, by Peter Ledwon and Marilyn Mets (Tundra Books, 2006). She wanted to know what I thought about it.

I haven’t been writing about picture books on child sexual abuse for quite a while, having gone over to the Young Adult/Adult side, but I’ve followed the field. This book is a winner. Just right for preK and comforting for grades 1 and 2.

Mia's Secret

As noted in earlier posts, writers for the very young have a very difficult line to walk with this topic. The trick is to give kids the information they need in a way that does not undermine their sense of personal power and their trust in a basically good world.

The usual “stranger danger” message makes kids more vulnerable, not less. Only 6% of sexual assaults are by strangers. Kids are most at risk in their own homes and the homes of trusted adults.

what happens

Mia is a little girl with a purple teddy bear and a secret. Something happened and Mia is unhappy that she can’t tell her mom. In a flashback we see an adult man–who could be an uncle, family friend, or mom’s partner–engaging Mia in a board game and then in secret keeping. The portrayal of what happens next is emotionally accurate, but not anatomically specific.

A wise child reading the book with a parent will know that Mia should tell, and will understand her reluctance. Mia comes up with a solution which is totally age appropriate, ingenious and true. She keeps her promise not to tell, but gets to confide in her mom anyhow. (Keep an eye on the bear!)

Equally appropriate for kids who’ve experienced abuse and those who have not, this book tells just what a preschooler needs to know and nothing more. It’s a great spring board for discussion about secrets, okay games vs. not okay ones, boundaries on touching, and how to say “No” to an adult.

Best of all Mia is no victim. She’s a smart little cookie that kids and adults will cheer for all they way.

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just listen

The first thing I did when I finished reading Just Listen, by Sarah Dessen, was to check out the Cybils website and make sure that this stellar young adult novel has been nominated for the YA fiction award. (It has.)

Dessen really gets it. Really understands that people who have been sexually assaulted are not cardboard victims, nor completely defined by their experience. I think a lot of teen readers will identify with her heroine Annabel Greene–not because she is a teen model (this threw me off at first)–but because she leads a full, complicated, problematic but also hopeful inner as well as outer life.

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Here’s the jacket. (I’m working with a new blog editing package and haven’t figured out yet how to get larger-than-thumbnail images.)

The story is told through a series of flashbacks in the voice of Annabel, the youngest of the three Greene sisters all of whom have been child models. Each of the sisters has her own struggle and by the end of the novel the three have moved towards much more mature relationships with themselves, each other and their parents.

One of the rewards of the book is to watch as Annabel develops a relationship with Owen Armstrong, a boy who challenges her to be honest with herself. It’s a real struggle for this girl who has earned her popularity through superficial beauty and making nice. To her credit, Dessen makes Annabel a thoroughly likeable person even as she comes to see that she has built her life on socially acceptable lies.

If you like teen fiction and girl stories with depth, pick this one up.

scratch

On the other hand, I was very disappointed in Jumping the Scratch, by Sarah Weeks. It’s well written. Has engaging characters. Most of all, it’s a book for 10 and up–younger readers–in which a boy protagonist copes with an incident of sexual…well, this part is hard to define–harassment? assault?

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Like Annabel, Jamie Reardon leads a life complicated by relatives. He and his mother are living with and trying to care for his Aunt Sapphy who has lost her short term memory. Jamie is actively stuffing the memory of something that happened between him and Old Gray, the man who runs the trailer park where Jamie and his family live. The portrayal of their lives and of Aunt Sapphy’s disability is textured and well realized.

The secret comes out when Jamie’s quirky friend “hypnotizes” him and Jaime remembers an assault that appears to be only a hug, although he’s clearly traumatized by it. What gives? Then he tells the secret to his aunt because she has no short term memory so won’t do anything about it. But–tada!–she gets her memory back just before he tells her the secret.

You see what I mean? The story resolution, the way things work out, just doesn’t ring true for me. It feels like outsider fiction in that Jamie is acted upon by others, he is not the author of his own life. The resolution relies heavily on coincidence. I think a ten-year-old reader would respond with “Hunh?”

Readers are left never understanding what happened between Jamie and Old Gray. And how it comes to our attention is awfully confusing. Hypnosis? By a ten-year-old playing magician? This part seems informed by the experiences of adults in therapy not by the realities of a boy living in the same trailer park as his perp.

Maybe I’m reacting to the pry-the-lid off aspect of the hypnosis, but it’s as if Jamie has to be tricked to move forward. I never see him as a person with strength to draw on or the ability to make things better for himself. Classic victim.

Maybe I am missing something here. Did you have a different reaction to this book? I’d love to hear about it.

the challenge

I do have some idea of what the author was up against in trying to publish a book for kids under twelve that addresses sexual abuse.

As an author, you try to tell a story that is honest and relevant to the lives of young readers. With difficult topics, you need to be clear and specific–but you don’t want to be so graphic as to traumatize a child new to the subject or retraumatize survivors. It is a delicate line to walk. Then there’s the whole maze of adults to deal with, the editors, publishers, marketing managers, reviewers, librarians, bookstore owners and parents who stand between a children’s author and her readers. Adults can get uneasy about things that kids can handle fine.
In 1985, I faced many of these challenges when I wrote Promise Not to Tell specifically for 7-10 year olds. Despite all my efforts, the two publishers marketed it for “12 and up” because they thought it would not be seen as appropriate for younger readers, even though we all knew how pervasive sexual abuse is among younger kids.

My hat is off to Sarah Weeks for writing for this age group. I just wish I could enthusiastically recommend her book.

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